Aida Reva
I won't keep this secret for long. But I do want to tell you how this works first because otherwise I risk you not believing me. It's really that simple.
Everyone knows the importance of having goals, being the master in your own life and dare to dream big. Yes. Dreaming big is really not that hard. Wether we believe we can achieve it or not, seeing ourselves on a yacht on an exotic ocean with a glass of champagne without a care in the world is not hard at all. But when we are about to turn that vision into actions, that's where the problems arise.
Goals. Goals are the answer to everything, right? Set goals! Make them achievable! Follow this method! Use this formula! Yes. But no. Information overload. If the goal formula is more complicated than the goal itself it's not happening, buddy. Now, you also probably read about how to break down goals into smaller goals. That's also a very good idea but how come this doesn't work either most of the time?
Let me present to you...the MICRO GOALS.
What in the world...?
Micro goals are goals you can achieve today. Right now. The smallest step you can form and do right now. So why is micro goals a magic trick? Because while smaller goals are great, they too are connected to the supermegaukulele big goal picture and it feels alien to us. They are still a little too big and we still cannot really see how to get to the next step. The micro goals are here now. They are so small and teeny tiny that a deranged monkey can to the tasks needed. If a deranged monkey can't do it, then it's not a micro goal.
What is the smallest step you can take right now? And the one after that? And the one after that? Write 3 and only 3 steps you can take that are ridiculously small.
So while a regular small goal would look like this:
Goal: Get a yacht
Smaller goals:
1. Save 5 millon per month
2. Get 16 jobs
Micro goals would look like this:
Goal: Get a yacht
Micro goals:
1. Open my bank app to see the account balance
2. Download a budget template
These are things I can do right now.
Micro goals give us no room for waiting, thinking, making excuses or get stuck on planning. Just like teaching babies to walk it's one tiny step at a time, you don't tell them to walk 10 steps at a time to get to the couch. Enough with the metaphors, you get the picture. So take a look at your goal and ditch everything else besides the 3 next steps.
Want to learn more about how this works after the 3 steps and how to build the skills of micro goals and self-discipline?
Get the mind training bundle, you'll never fail yourself again.
Efter att min text om RFSUs bok "Snippor och snoppar" har delats hundratals gånger och många andra har lyft problemet med boken så har RFSU fått mail och samtal från föräldrar som vill ha svar. "Delas denna bok ut på våra barns förskolor?" Det här är problemet med RFSUs "svar."
"Doktor Axel lyssnar först på hennes rygg och rumpa. Sen får Maria vända på sig och Axel lyssnar med stetoskopet på hennes mage och snippa." Texten är ur en bok som riktar sig till förskolebarn, skriven av Anna Kosztovic, utgiven av RFSL.
Kognitiv dissonans, det är ett begrepp som det har pratats mycket om de senaste tre åren då världen delades upp i två åsiktsläger. Det är lätt att underskatta dess kraft om man inte känner till det. Det är viktigt att förstå denna psykologiska mekanism för att kunna förstå sig själv och andra i tider då alla verkar vilja påverka ens åsikt.